CONFIDENCE. PLEASURE.
BENEFITS OF SEX THERAPY?
Boost your confidence: learn new tools and techniques that will support you to feel more confident in the bedroom.
Improve communication: communicate better, to understand each other’s needs and desires Deepen your connection: feel closer and more connected to your partner(s), both emotionally and physically. Increase pleasure: explore new sexual experiences and techniques, leading to more pleasure and satisfaction in the bedroom. Address sexual issues: identify and address the underlying causes and find solutions that work for you. My specialities include:Body
- Erectile dysfunction
- Unreliable erections
- Early erections
- Menopause changes
Desire
- Low libido
- Sexual confidence
- Porn addiction
- Sex for the first time
- Sex after a pause
Connection
- Communication
- Fear and trust around intimacy
- Kink
- ENM
EMPOWERING.
WHY I AM DIFFERENT
Nine years in practice. My core modalities are polyvagal theory and nervous system regulation, Transactional Analysis, and Internal Family Systems. I am an IFS informed and trauma informed practitioner, trained over five years with supervision, an experienced workshop facilitator, and the author of Parts of Me, a guide to Internal Family Systems.
At my sex therapy practice, I offer a unique and personalised approach that goes beyond traditional sex therapy.
I believe that sex therapy sessions can be more effective when held in different venues and incorporating props that support clients explore their sexuality and desires. With my support, you can explore your sexuality in a safe and supportive environment that is tailored to your individual preferences. I am an LGBTQIA+ ally. Together, we can find new ways to enhance your sexual experiences get the pleasure you deserve. BOOK YOUR INTIMACY ASSESSMENT CALL
Book Your Intimacy Assessment Call
Take the first step towards improving your sexual health and wellbeing by booking your Intimacy Assessment Call today. This call will provide a safe and supportive space for you to discuss your needs and explore the ways in which sex therapy can help you achieve your goals. Whether you’re dealing with issues related to intimacy, sexual dysfunction, communication, or desire, I’m here to support.
BOOK YOUR INTIMACY ASSESSMENT CALLHOW DOES IT WORK?
Sex therapy can help you deepen your emotional and physical connection with your present and future partner(s), leading to greater intimacy and satisfaction.
Through exploration of your sexual desires and preferences in a safe and supportive environment, you can better understand your own needs and boundaries, and work with your therapist to find ways to enhance your sexual experiences. Sex therapy also empowers you to take control of your sexual health and by providing you with tools and strategies to address challenges and improve the quality of your overall sexual experiences. Ultimately, sex therapy is a personalised and empowering way to improve your sexual relationships and feel more confident in your sexuality.ASSESS.
I will conduct an initial assessment of your sexual history, concerns, and goals for therapy. This may involve gathering information about sexual practices, health, relationships, and other relevant factors.
TREAT
I will develop a treatment plan that addresses your specific needs and goals. This may involve a variety of interventions. We will work collaboratively to implement the treatment plan and so you are supported throughout the process.
INTEGRATE
I support you to integrate the skills and strategies you’ve learnt into their everyday life. This may involve practicing communication skills, exploring new sexual techniques, or making other lifestyle changes to support sexual health and satisfaction.
REUNITE
I support you to reunite with your partner(s) or yourself in a more fulfilling and satisfying sexual relationship over the long term. The goal is to help you feel more empowered, confident, and satisfied in your sexual relationships.
IN THEIR WORDS.
WHAT IT IS LIKE TO WORK WITH ME
Calandra spends time and consideration on you as a person until she understands the issues you are facing and what your goals might be. She then tailors her sessions to what is relevant to you, and runs them at a speed that you are comfortable with.
M, 35
The coaching approach that Calandra uses made me feel very listened to, nurtured and confident. The sessions we had and the progress I made was invaluable.
F, 35
It was wonderful to feel Calandra’s care and focus on purely my well-being and no one else’s. Her humanity and warmth are precious.
F, 51
Being guided by Calandra has been transformational and so rewarding in so many ways. I feel so much lighter and deeply happy now.
F, 34
Shared with permission and published anonymously.
WHAT IS THE NEXT STEP?
The next step is to book an Intimacy Assessment Call with me. This call will last approximately 30 minutes and can be done by phone or Zoom – whichever you prefer. During this call, we’ll discuss your reasons for seeing a sex therapist, and you’ll have the chance to ask any questions you might have about me, my practice, and the process. This call will also give us a chance to connect before our first session.
I offer remote sessions via Zoom or phone, or face-to-face sessions from my office in Brighton, England. Depending on your needs, I can travel to your location. The number of sessions you’ll need varies depending on your unique situation, but generally, sex therapy is for a set period of time. To get the most benefit from our sessions, it’s recommended that you commit to fortnightly sessions. Consistency and commitment are key to achieving results. Fees £45 for the 30 minute call. £85 for sessions of up to 75 minutes for an individual, in Brighton, by Zoom or phone.COMMON QUESTIONS.
BEFORE YOU BOOK
What happens in the Intimacy Assessment Call?
It lasts about 30 minutes, by phone or Zoom, whichever you prefer. We talk about your reasons for seeing a sex therapist, you ask me anything you want to know about me, my practice and the process, and we get a feel for working together before any first session. The call is £45.
Is there any physical contact?
Our sessions are non-physical. Sometimes I may refer you to a trusted bodyworker.
How much does it cost?
The Intimacy Assessment Call is £45 for 30 minutes. Sessions are £85 for up to 75 minutes for an individual, in Brighton, by Zoom or phone.
Where do sessions happen?
Face to face from my office in Brighton, England, or remotely by Zoom or phone. Depending on your needs, I can travel to your location.
How many sessions will I need?
It varies with your situation, and sex therapy generally runs for a set period rather than open ended. Fortnightly sessions give the best results, because consistency is what makes the change stick.
What do you help with?
Erectile dysfunction and unreliable erections, early erections, porn addiction, sexual confidence, low libido, communication, kink, ethical non-monogamy, menopause changes, fear and trust around intimacy, and sex for the first time or after a long pause. If you are unsure whether your situation fits, the assessment call is the place to ask.
Do you work with couples?
Yes. I work with individuals, with couples, and with partners in non-monogamous relationships. Who comes to a session is something we decide together, and it can change as the work progresses.
Am I welcome if I am LGBTQIA+, kinky or non-monogamous?
Yes. I am an LGBTQIA+ ally, kink is one of my specialities, and ethical non-monogamy is part of my everyday practice. You can arrive as you are, without translating yourself first.
What are your qualifications?
I have been in practice for nine years. My core modalities are polyvagal theory and nervous system regulation, Transactional Analysis, and Internal Family Systems. I am an IFS informed practitioner and a trauma informed practitioner, an experienced workshop facilitator, and the author of Parts of Me, a guide to Internal Family Systems. My training was with Fi Feehan at Light Before Dawn over five years, and it included supervision. My clients have included individuals, couples and young people, presenting a wide range of challenges and trauma. I also hold a BSc in Neuroscience from the University of Sussex and an MSc from Middlesex University, an accredited certificate in coaching, membership of the Association for NLP, and a 200 hour registered yoga teacher qualification. I am fully insured with Balens, the specialist insurance broker. Alongside the clinical work I appear as the sex therapist on Netflix, Channel 4, Channel 5 and the BBC.
Portfolio
Here are some of the projects I have been involved with recently.
A Very British Sex Shop, Channel4
This eye-opening documentary follows my family, and our chain of sex shops in Brighton
How to Be a Man, Netflix
Talking sex, masculinity and what it really means to be a man today with Danny Dyer. Honest, funny and long overdue.
Adults Only, Channel 5
Leather, rubber, boots and bondage. I talk kink, and why it can be so good for you, in the episode Getting Kinky: It Hurts So Good!
Let’s Talk About Sex
A little insight into our Brighton Dungeon tour with Calandra Balfour, Reed Amber , Matt C Smith and Jamie Finch
Love Listen Talk Repeat
Wendy Capewell and I notice how people can be really embarrassed when it comes to talking about sex. But without sex, none of us would be here!
NewlyDads
Ollie and Gareth Locke-Locke came to me for a very special session. We talk twins, tiredness and how to find your way back to sex when you never have any
CREDENTIALS
Nine years in practice. Some of my professional qualifications and credentials.
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